I’ve always enjoyed a good “before” and “after” story. The kind where you get to see how successful people get to where they are. This blog is not a before and after story but rather is an “in process” story.
A big part of this blog will involve me identifying parts of my mindset that I need to shift so that I can get the most out of life. I’m sharing these faults/shortcomings with you because you may be struggling with them too (maybe we can help each other).
My biggest mindset pitfall is caring too much about what other people think. There are certain family members who I respect and love so much. Yet, I didn’t realize how their worldview was affecting my actions. They have a set idea of success and it doesn’t align with my future goals. This means that to go in the direction I want to go, I’ll have to disappoint them because it isn’t the life they would have chosen for me. It’s hard.
I’ve felt defensive about it and hurt. I wanted to change their minds so that they would support me. But, I’ve realized that I can’t change their minds and I’ve just got to go forward anyway without their approval. Maybe one day they’ll come around, then again maybe not. But I can’t let validation and approval define my next steps.
Don’t get me wrong, I love them very much and always will. Their hearts are in the right place because they want me to have a good life. They just aren’t open to all the different avenues one can take when creating their life. There’s more than one road, ya know?
So step one in laying my foundation is – let go of what other people think. Don’t base my actions on seeking approval but rather on identifying what I’m meant to be doing….and do it.
Be sure to check back as I go into greater depth on this. The main areas I hope to delve into in the coming weeks are everyday actions that contribute to: health, family, career, friendship, motivation, life philosophy, faith, hobbies and more. What actions do I want to shift to improve my quality of life and why? Come with me as I go, let’s do it together.