Mindset: Remembering to grow

I can’t remember the first time I heard the phrase “You reap what you sow.” I must have been about 8 years old. Though I’ve always grasped the meaning, at age 33, I’m renewing my resolve to put this knowledge into action.

Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset

Studies have been done on Growth vs Fixed Mindset. I love reading about these studies because they give me insight into why people do what they do. I’m oversimplifying but, in a fixed mindset, you’re told that the qualities you possess are intrinsic “You are so smart!” as opposed to a growth mindset which focuses on decisions and effort, “You worked really hard.” 

I was told in college that I would never get a job with an English degree. I was told again and again to change my major. Something in me wouldn’t believe it to be true. So during college, I prepared for the notion that finding a job may be a challenge. I did unpaid internships and added experience and professional references to my resume. I volunteered. I joined student organizations. I kept my grades up. And during my last semester at college, I gained a full-time job working at a publishing company. I reaped what I sowed.

If I hadn’t done the internships or done the other little actions every day to push myself ahead, I may not have gotten the job. Yet the people who told me to change my major didn’t seem to see the job offer as hard work that paid off. Instead, they kept saying how “lucky” I was to find a job. I think it was a combination of both luck and effort.

So what am I going to do now, what am I going to plant now that I want to sow in the future? I’ve been a bit stuck in a fixed mindset for the last four years and gotten off track. I’ve forgotten that my small everyday actions are building something at all times. I can focus that energy to reach a goal or I can mindlessly build something, without realizing it, and let the time slip away.

I want to create loving bonds with my husband and 3-year-old son, build optimal health, create work that helps people/matters, and continue to learn/grow/improve myself. WIth a growth mindset, I can push each of these goals forward a little bit each day.

Check back for my next post where I’ll talk about the daily action I’m committing to that will push my goals forward every day.

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