A Whole Sand Dollar: Healing Discovery about wholeness

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On our last vacation, I was walking along the beach alone, on my way to meet my husband and son for breakfast. I saw a lot of broken sand dollars rolling in the waves.

I thought about gathering a few of the broken pieces and gluing them together to make a whole. At this idea, my mind wandered further. I thought about how I’m striving to become whole myself. Continue reading “A Whole Sand Dollar: Healing Discovery about wholeness”

Failure – Friend or Foe?

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Hello, welcome back! How were you taught to look at failure? By taught, I mean how do the people who mattered most to you view failure?

I was taught that failure was evidence. Evidence that you’re doing the wrong thing; that you don’t have what it takes; that you should have played it safe instead of taking a risk; that you are different from the “successful” people and therefore can’t achieve what they can achieve.

Here’s what I’m learning at age 33. Failure is normal. It doesn’t define me unless I let the failure stop me.

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The Hardest Lesson Part 2

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Good morning! Thanks for visiting. In my last post, I spoke about the hardest lesson I’ve had to learn. If I’m honest, I’m still re-learning this lesson all of the time. The lesson is: I am not equal to how other people treat me.

Or the actions of others don’t define my value.

The second part of that lesson involves critical comments or unkind remarks. If someone is cutting me down, judging me, criticizing me, or just plain cold, I didn’t do anything to deserve that.  I heard this quote once that when someone speaks ill of another person, they are, “Reporting on themselves.”

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The Hardest Lesson Part 1

Good morning! Today I wanted to share one of the hardest lessons I’ve ever had to learn. The intention for this blog is to bring you along as I get to know myself and take strides to consciously build my life (instead of unconsciously living a life that is thrown at me as I go along). The life I want to build involves giving to the world, easing the burdens of others, loving as much as possible and spreading kindness and compassion to others.

I am not perfect. Being perfect isn’t achievable and it isn’t my goal. Continue reading “The Hardest Lesson Part 1”

Mindset: Remembering to grow

I can’t remember the first time I heard the phrase “You reap what you sow.” I must have been about 8 years old. Though I’ve always grasped the meaning, at age 33, I’m renewing my resolve to put this knowledge into action.

Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset

Studies have been done on Growth vs Fixed Mindset. I love reading about these studies because they give me insight into why people do what they do. I’m oversimplifying but, in a fixed mindset, you’re told that the qualities you possess are intrinsic “You are so smart!” as opposed to a growth mindset which focuses on decisions and effort, “You worked really hard.”  Continue reading “Mindset: Remembering to grow”

What other people think

I’ve always enjoyed a good “before” and “after” story. The kind where you get to see how successful people get to where they are. This blog is not a before and after story but rather is an “in process” story.

A big part of this blog will involve me identifying parts of my mindset that I need to shift so that I can get the most out of life. I’m sharing these faults/shortcomings with you because you may be struggling with them too (maybe we can help each other).

My biggest mindset pitfall is caring too much about what other people think. There are certain family members who I respect and love so much. Yet, I didn’t realize how their worldview was affecting my actions. They have a set idea of success and it doesn’t align with my future goals. This means that to go in the direction I want to go, I’ll have to disappoint them because it isn’t the life they would have chosen for me. It’s hard.  Continue reading “What other people think”

About me: My first post!

Hi everyone and welcome! I’m Kathy, a thirty-three-year-old living in the midwest. I created this blog because I’m truly just getting to know myself for the first time. I am learning and growing so much, and I thought, I can’t be the only one out there who is going through this!

So I wanted to create a positive place where we can grow and change together. I’ll share the lessons I’m learning along the way as I work to create the life I want (instead of following the expectations of others). And I hope you will share your wisdom with me as well!

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